"Have The Relationship You Want” is a must read by my friend and mentor Rori Raye.
I am profoundly affected by the entirety of the message this book shares.
I see it.
I feel it.
I embody it in my own coaching practice.
I wish I’d written it.
I am saddened that humans have come to such a low point in our intimate relationships….a 50% divorce rate and a close to 50% rate of cheating or at least dissatisfaction by one or both partners in the relationships that manage to avoid divorce court.
You know who I am talking about, the people you see and hear about that, “Stick it out," for the kids or for financial reasons or for whatever fear based reason…...
What a sad state of affairs!
AND It Doesn’t Have To Be That Way!
Rori sees it all so clearly and presents it brilliantly. She cracked the code.
Both of us have dedicated our lives to helping women just like you learn to rock your relationship with your man if you're in a relationship, or your future man if you're single.
As relationship coaches, we truly get the need for global intervention.
We understand the intricacies of intimate relationships, where they go wrong and the ease in which you can actually have the relationship you want by following a few simple steps.
If you look at the really big picture, the whole of humanity rests in either success or failure of our interpersonal and intimate relationships. The only ones who benefit from the epidemic level of decay in our ability to have true love and intimacy are the divorce attorneys.
What if I told you that most everything you’ve been taught and believe about men and how to engage them date them and keep them is a lie!
What if I told you that there is a way to stop the bleeding in your own relationship?
What if you got to experience real intimacy and deep love from your man for the very first time?
How would that make you feel?
Imagine it right now.
Can He Change?
What if I told you it all starts with you?
Men look to us to "Do The Relationship."
They instinctively know what they want and what they don't want and have no problem going after the woman they want, but once they get us, they still look to us as women to show them the way just by the fact that we are feminine feeling creatures… something that is as alien as fascinating to them.
Men are masculine ‘doing’ creatures, women are feminine ‘being’ creatures.
It’s true!
So, If men really do look to us and we women lead them with the best of intent, down the same old disastrous rabbit hole we have been living in for generation after generation, they have little choice but to behave and react exactly the way they have for centuries.
They retreat.
They shut down.
They disappear.
The ultimate betrayal.
Adam and Eve revisited.
Toxic man breeding ground.
You got it!
We create our own monsters in our men.
Don't misunderstand.
It’s no one's fault.
I have nothing but compassion for both sides.
How sad when a valuable woman like you does her very best with all she was taught and prepared for and dreamed of since she was a little girl and still fails miserably.
OMG my heart breaks for all women.
I AM her...just like you.
I am humbled by the entirety of this work.
The 4 Rules
There are 4 simple rules that keep women in the driver's seat and at the same time keep men not only happy, but wanting more.
I remember the day like it was yesterday when I was learning how to coach women in this way, I unknowingly broke all 4 rules in one conversation with my guy and was instantly blindsided by the impact.
I will never forget the moment I was able to see it unfold in front of me and for the first time understand what I had done and how my man had no choice but to push me back...AND HARD!
And, as much as I wanted to take it all back, I had to sit there and watch it play itself out.
I recall not sleeping that night.
I got to see how very and unfortunately misinformed we are about men and relationships.... I was devastated...the kind of devastation that I am guessing you are experiencing right now. Like you, I did everything by the book, perfectly executed…..and then we get dumped or worse for all of our effort.
What if I told you now that all that effort is precisely what got you to where you are now….on my website, hurt and hurting seeking something, anything to ease your pain.
I feel for you.
I’ve been in your shoes.
But I learned….and you can too!
Try Rule 1 of The 4 Rules Exercise Right Now!
1. Sit or stand comfortably eyes closed.
Imagine your man right in front of you.
See him clearly and note what he is wearing and what he is doing.
What is his mood?
Is he smiling or frowning?
Really get into who he is right now.
Play with it.
2. Study him like you were studying a slide under a microscope.
Note everything the way a research scientist might.
3. Now breath in and out slowly and deeply.
With each breath in, recall a time when you blamed him for
something....and with each exhale, let go of the resentment and blame.
You might choose to blow up each resentment or set the blame on fire or send it to the far end of the Universe or crush it with a rock. Let your imagination go wild!
...or do what I do and simply conjure up every anger, blame and resentment you have ever felt about him no matter what it was, put it in a computer file and hit Batch DELETE, just like it were a computer program.
4. Repeat this exercise until you can't recall a time where you resented
or blamed him for anything at all.
Note how this makes you feel.
If you are feeling calm and grounded, loving and soft, just plain happy and free or something similar....congratulations, you are now in your true Feminine Energy. Feels great doesn't it?
No worries if you still feel tension or anger or a similar emotion...Just go back and do the exercise again. This time you might want to try the Batch DELETE method.
5. Now...Look at your man again.
Really study him.
Note how he has changed.
Set Yourself Free!
Stop romancing the lie! Just stop… and let go of all of the things you think you know about men.
Let go of the fear of what you think you do not know.
Better yet, as you let it all go...and I know you can...do it with love….for you, for all those beautiful, well meaning women who came before you and for all of those who read this after you.
There is no one to blame.
There is a very bright light at the end of the tunnel.....and its Whispering Love!
C'mon!
Follow me!